Larsen Barnds, LCMFT
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Traditionally, couples start out feeling “in-love”, warm, well connected, safe, and excited to be together forever, because it feels “so good!". And, over time, these same two lovers may begin to feel differently, inside and out. They can begin to interact in unpleasant ways that neither person likes nor understands. Their partnership can become disconnected, leaving much despair, pain, and each partner feeling very confused. Sadly, and understandably, each person may begin to believe that either they or their partner is “wrong”, or worse, “defective”. Neither may realize that they are actually in a mutual pattern, or “dance”, where actions, and reactions become automatic, unpleasantly predictable, and seemingly unstoppable. It is the INTERACTION between the two that is the problem, not the people themselves.
Thanks to the study and research of Dr. Sue Johnson and Emotionally Focused Therapy it is now possible for this same couple to discover this dreadful dance and learn the tools to change the dance and make the music, they want. They can have re-connection with each other, feel safe and return to excitement and feeling good.
If you and your partner are in pain and not connecting, I hope you will let me help you and your partner discover what needs to change in the RELATIONSHIP, before feeling like you need to leave the PARTNERSHIP. I am just a phone call away, 816-213-6698.